Learning To Love You
After many years of working with women who come to me to lose weight, I realized one of the common threads with these women is that almost all of them have some version of a really mean inner critic.
You know who I am talking about…
the one who says you are not good enough
the one who says you can’t take a break or everything will fall apart
the one who says you are fat and unattractive
the one who says you are lazy and good for nothing
the one who says your clothes look horrible on you
Brutal, right?
We would never talk to a friend like this, yet this is the internal dialogue many women have with themselves.
One of the ways to squelch this mean ol’ voice is to see that you are way more than your physical body. Look at all the other roles that you fulfill and give yourself credit for who you are – who you REALLY are and ALL that you are.
A few roles to consider when thinking about who you are:
an amazing daughter
a devoted partner
a loving mother
a valued employee
a dear friend
We are more than our physical body, yet we put so much of our “worth” on how we look. That being said, it is absolutely OK to want to change your shape and focus on your health. But please remember… it all starts with loving the one you are with – YOU!
I am including a link to a lovely journal exercise called Dearest Body of Mine. It is a beautiful place to start developing a healthy relationship with your body, as well as shutting up that damn inner critic. My clients have shared with me some amazing letters they have written to themselves. Often, I am moved to tears by how much compassion they find for themselves.
If you feel comfortable doing so, you can email me your Dearest Body letter. I would be honored to read it and hold space for your desired intentions.
Just remember – whether you have 5 lbs or 50 lbs to lose, it all starts with loving yourself first.
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